I’m a recovering naturopathic doctor and self-help addict. I lurrrv debunking unhelpful self-help information and showing people that they aren’t broken and don’t need to be fixed — they are operating exactly as designed. Everything about you is intelligent and makes perfect sense…yep, even THAT part. My own journey taught me mostly what doesn’t work — which thankfully has made it crystal clear what does.
If you are currently experiencing something you don’t want to be experiencing, or doing that thing you don’t want to be doing (again!), or not doing that thing you do want to be doing (again!), or feeling like you’ve tried everything and are still a hot mess — this question is actually a big part of what is keeping you stuck.
Anxiety, depression, fatigue, overwhelm, procrastination, bingeing, painful patterns, self-sabotage, coping mechanisms and even physical symptoms aren’t The Problem — they are all the proper response to something. Which means there is nothing to overcome, fix, hack, control, hide or manage. As you’ve discovered, approaches that focus on doing so fail you miserably and leave you feeling more helpless. It’s not you! You just can’t fix what ain’t broke with methods designed for broke things!
The root problem is the loss of the ability to know, to be, to navigate as, to live as and to love the unique Human Beam that you are. There are many ways that loss can happen, and many ways it can present itself — but the only solution that can work is to Be More You. Everything else unfolds from there.
The next time you are considering launching yourself into that next solution-that-will-fix-everything, you’ll want to ask these 3 specific questions: 1) Does it start with the foundation assumption that everything that is here is correct, intelligent and helpful? 2) Does it show me how to access my own answers and intuition? 3) Does it help me get in my body so that it can guide me? If it doesn’t do those 3 things — it’s attempting to fix or bypass your own intelligence… es no bueno.
You are energy first
You are a unique energy field that is not here to be like anyone else. Being able to use your energy successfully and to access your own intuitive system might just be the most essential healing tool I’ve found — and the quickest way to start understanding, living & loving the OOAK Human Beam you are.
Every part of you is good
and well-intentioned
You are a glorious system of intelligent beings. The part that criticizes, shames, binges, perfects, scrolls. The shadow parts & the inner child parts. All you. All good. And all have important information to share when you stop trying to fix them.
Your body is your truthteller
Your body is your biggest protector and wisest guide. Your brain on the other hand can be a crazy chicken that has little grasp on reality. Rather than trying to brain your way through things, or trying to fight and control your body… the magic happens when you get in your body and follow it.